You know you can do more
So why can’t you show it to the world?
Now is your time to shine!
I Get You. Let Me Explain.
I’m Denise G. Lee, confidence booster in life, plan maker, and all ‘round partner in coaching you to the greatness you were born to be.
I help savvy and successful business owners like you heal from old emotional wounds, equip you with new and better ways to deal with stress, and see things for how they are, not for how you’d like them to be.
As an empathic introvert (I am curious and want to investigative), I want to understand the source of your problems. With this, I work with you to create a customized plan that is realistic for your stage of business and life.
I understand how lack of clarity and stress can cause problems in your life. Let me help you understand yourself at a deeper level with life coaching so that you make the right decisions, without hesitation or uncertainty.
Talking with a stranger about your personal life is not easy. You may fear judgment or criticism. In fact, you may think, “Denise doesn’t understand the pain I went through.”
Well, let’s break the ice. In the next section, I will share with you a few details about my life. Although we may not share the same life story, you will find we share similar experiences about feeling low and misunderstood.
A turbulent childhood and unstable early adulthood
I was raised by Sierra-Leonean immigrants. On the surface it looked like we had obtained the American dream, complete with a little white-poodle I named, ‘Buster.’ While everything looked picture perfect from the outside, complete with family portraits and expensive furniture, the emotional walls inside each of us were moldy and decayed.
Although I raised in an upper middle class neighborhood, myself and my two older brothers felt a complete lack of safety and security within our upscale home. We did not complain, partially because we didn’t understand nor had the words to explain the pain we all felt.
While my father was absent pursuing his obsession with women and money, my mother desperately clung onto me for love and attention. Because of her own unresolved trauma issues, my mother abused me sexually, physically and verbally. Instead of blaming her, I blamed myself for not having the smarts to run away from her quick enough.
The rage from not having my emotional needs met did a great job (so I thought) of masking away the pain. I withdrew from people and enjoyed watching hours of pornography and romance novels. Little did I know that my compulsion to consume lust-filled content would later bloom into a full-blown sex addiction.
To make matters worse, low self-esteem led me to engage in uninteresting personal and professional activities, reinforcing the notion that my dreams and wishes should take a backseat to the approval of others. I clung to jobs and relationships that gradually chipped away at my confidence, leaving me with little foundation to construct anything meaningful, as I felt hollow and empty inside.
I attempted to mask the pain through sarcasm and comfort eating, perpetuating a cycle of deception with myself and others. My actions kept me entrenched in old and destructive patterns.
This emotional quicksand needed to come to an end. I required a strategy not only to overcome anxiety but also to break free from the compulsion to please others in every aspect of my life.
My recovery journey taught me that you’ll only grow to the capacity of your risk tolerance. Your best intelligence got you to where you are today.
After many years of trying to fix my problems alone, through freebies and low cost programs, I was nowhere close to a solution. Moreover, I refused to risk anything beyond $500 unless I was convinced it was the “holy grail,” or perfect solution. Continuing this strategy while expecting different results was sheer madness. I knew I needed more help.
After much thought, I invested two mid-priced group business coaching programs. Both were enlightening as it forced me to expose my unresolved traumatic memories. These programs confirmed my prior lack of investment in myself because of my deep fear of failure.
Next, I took a deep dive into trauma and anxiety therapy, post-traumatic stress disorder, cognitive-based therapy, and spiritual self-help programs.
I discovered that my compulsions, obsessions, and anxieties were linked to the trauma. To facilitate healing, I recognized the necessity of addressing past sexual, physical, and verbal traumas.
Over the course of my personal journey towards inner healing, I cultivated an appreciation for the finest aspects of myself, concurrently quelling the negative, critical, and judgmental thoughts that had ensnared me in detrimental habits. Ultimately, I gained the ability to trust myself and believe in my capacity to succeed.
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Many personal and professional development programs treat you as a number rather than a person with unique issues. I learned this truth through my own personal experiences. My trauma-informed coaching program will help you remove identify and eliminate any insecurity that is blocking you from success.
I established Denise Lee Coaching because I saw a deep need for combined life and business coaching programs, with a focus on customized self-care and trauma recovery.
If you are looking to escape from the quicksand of negativity, allow me to help you shovel your way out of your current situation. Learn how I helped myself, my clients and how I can help you with business and life coaching.
Warning
I do NOT believe that there is only ONE way to grow a business and I do NOT mind telling you when you are hurting yourself and your chances of success.
How I Got Here | About Denise G Lee
In 2013, I left an almost decade long career managing multi-million dollar projects as a certified project manager at FEMA and Census Bureau. And I knew if I could pull that off, I could handle jumping into the fire of running my own business.
So I did!
While still working with those agencies, I grew a personal training business that I started with my own two hands from nothing to being highlighted on TV and winning free mobile advertising by Capital One.
The power to transform and grow emotionally is inside of ALL OF US.
Feeling good about yourself is intrinsically tied to growing your business.
Past pain can block you emotionally and spiritually, stifling anything you want to accomplish.
Let’s work together to uncover the roots of those pains, dismantle beliefs and ideas which no longer serve you and evolve into a happier, calmer and more successful person.
The emotional healing process is MORE than possible. Inside you there is a voice that wants to grow, learn and change. You are capable of transforming not just yourself, but your community as well for the better.
Now is the time to step out of the shadows of being insecure and step into a brighter, brilliant and bold light of courage, optimism and bravery.
Today is a new day to be the best version of yourself.
Becoming the best version of yourself requires a commitment to heal, grow and learn.
I left the personal training industry to become the guide that you need to help you bring all of the gifts that you can provide to others in business and in life.
However, I am still connected to the business world. As a certified PMP, I use my project management skills to help your business improve its efficiency, while making you more money, each and every day.
Now is a new and better day. My mission is to help you escape destructive thoughts which make you feel depressed, insecure, anxious and afraid.
Let’s work together to create a custom plan designed to improve how you work, live and play. This WILL change your world.